Monday, October 6, 2008

A little Red Raider follow up.

Trey and Dea had an incredible time at Tech and came back fired up with some reservations. In some ways, I don't think Dea knew exactly how to categorize the whole thing. He loved the campus, the people he met and the amenities he saw but, as Emily and I were saying tonight, he doesn't come into contact with peers who have gone to college like we did in high school. My high school experience pretty much looked like this...


And his looks more like this...

Mine may be slight exaggeration. I mean, obviously, I'm not blonde, but Dea's, well, it pretty much looks like that except this year, they're wearing uniforms.

So much of college life is a foreign language to him. The unfamiliar is scary and Tech seems pretty far away. He's said several times how long the drive is and he'd like to still be able to see his brothers and us more often than he thought might be feasible. Even the verbiage is new to him. Majors, minors, credit hours, dorms, etc are words he's just unfamiliar with. I think the unfamiliarity makes it difficult to see himself there in just a few short months.

We deal with that a lot in this neighborhood with kids really not being able to imagine or dream outside of the reality they've grown up with.

I remember Trey and Quincy talking about Quince one day owning a car. Quincy couldn't imagine why he would need a car because the bus would take him everywhere he could ever want to go. Quincy never imagined himself on the beach or in the mountains or across an ocean. The same is holding true with Dea, just to a different degree. He wants to get out of the 'hood but can't really imagine himself anywhere besides either West Dallas or a in mansion like the rappers' on YouTube.

We're trying to show him that there's a whole lotta real estate between those two extremes.

Whether it be Tech or a more superior school down south in College Station, we're hoping to help him take off the West Dallas lenses through which he views the world and put on a bigger pair of glasses.

Lord, may you be glorified in this process and point this young man in the direction you've known for him since before one of his days came to pass.

11 comments:

Kim said...

I am so thankful for the support and encouragement you provide Dea. It gives me hope that my kids will someday find mentors like you and your husband. The kiddos I teach (4th & 5th graders) are just like what you describe. The sad thing is not that they don't dream, it is that they don't KNOW they SHOULD dream! They live in a small world called the neighborhood and have no clue that their are places where drugs, guns and coercion aren't the norm.

Do, Dea! Dream big and then live those dreams!

These Three Kings said...

Amen to that prayer sister...

I love how the LORD is already revealing that plan with Dea going away to college, that generational cycle has already been removed!

Love it!!!

Stacy Ann said...

I definitely didn't go to a school like his but I was homeschooled and the first of my siblings to attend college. It really helped me to go to a community college for a year before attending university. It allowed me to still be at home but introduced me to a bit of "college life". Plus it saved me a bunch of money. Four of my siblings have done that and are now all attending "real" schools. I know it helped all of us as my younger brother was the only one who ever went to high school.
Well, hope that helps! What a blessing for Dea to have y'all in his life and to help him see his true potential!! And might I suggest "hook 'em horns!!" ;)

emily said...

UTA all the way!! Uncle Mood will be disappointed but it is far away---

I'm just so happy that wants more- that he sees himself as an architect somewhere, he sees life beyond West Dallas, or at least he is trying to. I'm excited to see what the Lord has for this young man. :)

I thought you said your lockers were a different color too-- come on, this is suppose to be a factual blog right?

Paul and DeeDee said...

Amen! (minus the college station part:) Praying for Dea and that God will give him big dreams. We are thankful that God has provided your family for him.


sorry I really tried not to do it but I just couldn't leave it untouched....it would go against my morals:)

Henley on the Horn said...

Your blog is so wonderful & thought-provoking! I left you something on my blog!

Jess said...

I'm praying for Dea.

I am so thankful God had you in the story of his life from the day it was written.

Jess said...

I'm praying for Dea.

I am so thankful God had you in the story of his life from the day it was written.

Sarah said...

I cannot the total change in mindset that will have to occur! We will be praying for both those boys....they are so blessed to have your family, guiding their paths!

Sarah said...

P.S. I meant to say, "I cannot IMAGINE.....". Just wanted to clarify that. :-)

Holli said...

wow....I am crying for all the kids around the world whos dreams only reach as far as their "front porch".
PRAYING Dea. That God can show him the plans He has for him and that HIS dream is so much bigger then Dea ever could imagine!
Praying for your family, Quincy and the kids in "West Dallas".

Quincy is the one who caught my eye when going through blogs..... He touched my heart and I pray for him often.