Trey and Dea had an incredible time at Tech and came back fired up with some reservations. In some ways, I don't think Dea knew exactly how to categorize the whole thing. He loved the campus, the people he met and the amenities he saw but, as Emily and I were saying tonight, he doesn't come into contact with peers who have gone to college like we did in high school. My high school experience pretty much looked like this...
And his looks more like this...
Mine may be slight exaggeration. I mean, obviously, I'm not blonde, but Dea's, well, it pretty much looks like that except this year, they're wearing uniforms.
So much of college life is a foreign language to him. The unfamiliar is scary and Tech seems pretty far away. He's said several times how long the drive is and he'd like to still be able to see his brothers and us more often than he thought might be feasible. Even the verbiage is new to him. Majors, minors, credit hours, dorms, etc are words he's just unfamiliar with. I think the unfamiliarity makes it difficult to see himself there in just a few short months.
We deal with that a lot in this neighborhood with kids really not being able to imagine or dream outside of the reality they've grown up with.
I remember Trey and Quincy talking about Quince one day owning a car. Quincy couldn't imagine why he would need a car because the bus would take him everywhere he could ever want to go. Quincy never imagined himself on the beach or in the mountains or across an ocean. The same is holding true with Dea, just to a different degree. He wants to get out of the 'hood but can't really imagine himself anywhere besides either West Dallas or a in mansion like the rappers' on YouTube.
We're trying to show him that there's a whole lotta real estate between those two extremes.
Whether it be Tech or a more superior school down south in College Station, we're hoping to help him take off the West Dallas lenses through which he views the world and put on a bigger pair of glasses.
Lord, may you be glorified in this process and point this young man in the direction you've known for him since before one of his days came to pass.