Monday, November 2, 2009

New Friends. Bad Hair.

After our last couple of weeks of being out of town and then coming home to more drama than daggum Mr. Darcy in the BBC version of Pride and Prejudice, we were ready for a long restful weekend.

Instead, we had ourselves some out of town comp'ny.  Staying with us.  In our home.  Which I hadn't gotten around to cleaning yet this year.

Becca and Adam, whom I met via this blog, are starting a mentoring program in Atlanta and wanted to come in town and eat all the Mexican food they could get their hands on see what we were doing down here in Dallas.

I'm going to be honest, and we've already told them this story, the whole thing gave Trey pause.

"Now, how do you know these people?"

"Our blogs."

"Uh huh.  And they're staying with us?  In our house?  For four days?"


"Um, baby, that's great and all, and I get the whole 'Body of Christ' thing and everything but, um, is there a chance they could also be serial killers?"

"Naw.  They're fine."

And they were.  They were more than fine.  They were amazing - the sweetest, most genuine couple who love Jesus and are really looking at what the Bible says about the poor, the marginalized, and the needy, and what biblical justice and mercy really look like.

And as soon as they said, "Kevin should TOTALLY win Top Chef this season.", all Trey's fears about serial killers went out the window.  Meeting people who'd vote for the same chef you would on a reality show is, for Trey, tantamount to running a background check through CIA Headquarters.

You know what I like about writing CIA Headquarters in this post?  Becoming the cog in the machine for people legitimately searching Google for 'CIA Headquarters'.

I know.    

Anyway, the Lord has been incredibly faithful to allow us, over the past several weeks, to meet face to face, several friends who are doing incarnational, inner-city ministry around the country.

It's been such an encouragement to both of us to sit down with more people who share the same heart, have the same outrageous stories, and love what they're doing enough to think they're the luckiest people in the world to be called into this kind of ministry.  Admittedly, sometimes I wondered if everyone on the Mercy Street staff had just fallen into the same pool of crazy.  Apparently, it's a pretty big pool full of pretty inspiring people.

What, however, has not been great has been realizing that every woman I know who does urban ministry has really great hair.  The kind they can just let air dry and it looks all beautiful and shiny and Pantene-commercial-like.

Hannah has it.
Mindy has it.
Stephanie has it.
Becca has it.
Delta has it
Nicole has it.
Carly has it.

I don't has it.  The 80's were not good to this head of hair and I'm not sure it's ever recovered.  My hair is fine, kinda naturally wavy-straight-frizzy, and I ashamedly take my hot rollers on out of town trips.  Without a hair-dryer, well, you don't want to go there right before bed.

In the interest of revealing my complete insecurities, I wonder...Becca's whole blog is chock-full of pictures.  She's a pretty great photographer.  But, the whole time they were here, the whole four days, she got out her camera zero times.


I mean, I don't want to seem paranoid or anything but, does anyone have the 411 on good hair they can give me?  Apparently, with this kinda company, I'm gonna need it.


These Three Kings said...

You need to stop! LOL!!!! I am cracking have wonderful hair sista..dont let the mirror fool ya! I cant wait till the day we visit you guys are some pretty darn amazing people...we love you!!

Anonymous said...

I know this from years of being her friend...Mindy just doesn't wash it...often.

Henley on the Horn said...

I want to write like you!! You find humor in every doggone thing!! I love that you had company from meeting on your mutual blogs. That is TOTALLY something I would do. We met a guy on vacation and flew to his parents' lake house in Texas a few years ago. THey totally could have eaten us for dinner and I wouldn't be here to write about it:).

emily said...

What a blessing to have those in your life that truly "get it" on every level. And for the record, I think you have beautiful hair- with that one hairdo on our first trip to the lake together, being the exception. :)


Becca said...

I was waiting to see the wonderful things you were going to write about us on here. . .

I'm so glad especially that it was about my hair :-)

but seriously, y'all are awesome - are you sure you dont need new Mercy street employees? We'll totally invite you to live with us!

Audrey said...

So... I've loved reading your posts for a while now, but you and Trey just got a whole new appreciation from me. Kevin TOTALLY should win Top Chef. I spent far too long reading his bio and figuring out how we could get to his restaurant in Atlanta last week. Top Chef comraderie is clearly more important than any CIA background check.

Candy said...

Speaking of hair-- which I have less and less of! Went to my monthly color/cut with my stylist of 24 years, who has Alzheimers now. Not to worry the rate my hair is falling out, there won't be much to color. Hormonal issues, you know.

Melissa, you do NOT have bad hair!


Zan said...

As you are well aware, I cannot help you there. However, I can empathize, even though I am nor sure what you are talking about. And hey, you have at least one friend with worse hair than you. And BTW, mine is falling out as well...thank you very much hormone 38. See, now Candy can feel better too. I'm a giver.

Anonymous said...

Yes, Kevin most definitely should win Top Chef.

My dear, I'm just a reader of your blog but I have seen you in the flesh. You don't know what bad hair is. Trust me on this.

That is all.

HollyP said...

Ok, I can't believe that my first post on your blog is about hair. I am a huge fan of yours, and still think of you running through the gnats like a lunatic when I need a laugh. But on to the important stuff: Nexus makes this great product called "Verastyler". You can get it at Wal-Mart or Costco. I have fine blonde hair, and lately I get compliments on it all the time! I'm a stinking walking advertisement. Try it. You just squirt a few squirts in your hand and rub it on your wet hair, then blow dry and curl or whatever you do. Your hair is still shiny and stays put after. Good luck! I'm a friend of Dona's (since we were 16)and love to hear about your ministry.

carrielubrady said...

Well, I like you live in the hood and apparently live in the pool of crazy but I DO NOT have good hair. I have frizzy due to left over perm from my teen years hair. It is awful and what is worse is that I live in Memphis where it is humid about 99.9% of the time. My hair just keeps growing and is awful.

Colleen said...

:) I got to meet Becca and Adam today, they really are great. They told me all about you, they are like the 1,000000 person (not even kidding, okay maybe a little) to tell me about the two of you in just a matter of weeks! I love what you're doing in Dallas. I work in inner-city Baltimore and I am inspired by your work. Praying for you and your family tonight!

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