Tuesday, May 4, 2010

If you happen to read this blog...

This morning I was at an event for the new families whose kids will be joining mine at Covenant this fall.

It's always fun to see the mix of excitement and fear cross their faces when you start talking about Singapore Math, and recess, and they start actually invisioning their child on campus in their uniform.

Were they to know my children better, their faces might read a little heavier on the fear side.

Oh, I kid.

Anyway, I was talking to a couple of women who will have Explorers in the fall and they mentioned that they read this blog. I told them that's Trey's favorite thing - when he's telling a story and someone says, "Yeah, I know. I read it on your wife's blog." Fantastic.

It is a strange relationship, though - the one's created in the whole blog-world. I feel like I know people really well even though we've never met face to face. I like the people who's blogs I read and I feel kind of like a friend even though they have no idea who I am. I'm not the most consistent commenter but I'm a faithful reader. As a writer, I love comments because it helps me know who's out there reading. I also have to be careful not to get my feelings hurt if I write something and no one says anything. It could be because the post stunk to high-heaven, or maybe they were just busy and had to go change a stinky diaper and cook dinner and drive carpool and go to work. At least, that's what I like tell myself when I go to my happy place where there's only rainbows and sunshine.

What I try to do is remember why I write this thing in the first place...I'm not a scrapbooker and writing all this stuff down sure helps alleviate the guilt I feel for checking the NO box on yet another Creative Memories Evite. I also really want to share with whomever might land here about the work the Lord is doing in West Dallas. Sometimes it's easier for me to laugh about the craziness than it is to really write about some of the heartache that's going on all around us.

All that to say, the ladies I was speaking to today were asking about the neighborhood, and the blog, and I asked them if they remembered a family of kids we kept about six months ago. Back in September, we had, for the second time, part of a family of seven kids come stay with us. CPS got involved and basically did nothing. I may or may not have written an ugly letter to them on this here blog.

Whatever.

Now, six months later, just as we told them would happen, the family is coming apart at the seams once again. The kids haven't been in school in a month, they're wandering the streets at all hours, hungry, and dirty. We're finding ourselves stuck between a system that won't act and a momma who can't take care of her kids but won't let anyone help her.

In the middle are seven really great children who break our hearts and eat all our popsicles. We're O.K. with the popsicles, we just wish we had a little less of the heart breaking.

So, these ladies I was talking with today - the blog readers - encouraged me to share what's going on so that, if you feel so moved, you might pray for them. And for us. Our hearts are all pretty heavy and burdened and I want to fix it and can't.

This whole blog thing is still kind of weird to me but when I meet women like I did today, and read posts like this from my blogger-friend Traci, whom I've never met face to face, I'm assured there is a powerful, gracious God who uses really strange ways to get our attention and uses really strange venues to bring His people together.

33 comments:

Dina said...

I will leave a comment so you won't get your feelings hurt! I love your blog and it's so encouraging. I can't believe what you and your family have sacrificed to do what you do. And I can't imagine the heartbreak of trying to help those kids. You and the other family will be in my prayers tonight.

pendy said...

I am a retired teacher of special needs teenagers and understand that feeling of helplessness and heartbreak over situations in which children find themselves. *sigh*

God bless you and your family for your open hearts.

Traci said...

Mmmm mmm mmm. Yes- this blogging thing is a strange and wonderful thing isn't it? Friendships based on words and thoughts and hearts across hundreds of miles - and yet it's as comforting as someone sitting across you at Starbucks. We are praying for those babies and for you all and for Child Services because I surely wouldn't want to be around when you get to them!

Carey said...

I'm so proud to be your friend. Your heart is precious. It's like 9-layer dip. Each time you scrape the surface of a new layer, you find it surprising and satisfying at the same time. It's late and the reason I don't blog is because of analogies like that.I love you, M!

TDM Wendy said...

First of all, I love your blog. You are one of the few blogs that I read consistently of someone I don't know. Just check the links on my blog. You might be surprised. You are the valedictorian of "people I don't know" blogs.
Second, I feel like you totally misled me on this post. I totally thought you were going to write that those new moms were going to say, "We work for CPS. Thanks for blogging about us jerkface."
But I forgive you and will totally praying for the heartbreak to end. For God to rescue them using CPS or whatever. The system is so broken - here in california too.

Misty said...

i always read your blog. watched you fix a washing machine too! :) i love your heart and how your family is living out God's word-and how i'm continuously encouraged to do more! sometimes i don't comment due to lack of words on my end...ok i'm sometimes intimidated by your cleverness! i will remember you all in prayers! i'm so thankful our paths crossed, via orthodontia, and we have met face to face! :O) <3

Jess said...

Will pray for those kids for sure. Your blog is always a refreshing and encouraging reminder to me on how to not only talk the talk but to WALK it daily. :)

little miss can't be wrong said...

your family, your children, and the children of west dallas and mercy street (and most especially these special seven) are in the hearts and prayers of the can't be wrong family.

happygeek said...

We do pray. I still pray for the guy who went to camp last summer and had break-through moment.
Please do share those stories, the good, the bad, the snake.

The B4 said...

I want to cry reading about those children, that family and their mother. We just went through an adoption opportunity with two little girls from a family where the birth mom could not care for all of them. The adoption did not occur, and we are left with rehearsing His truth: He loves those children more than we do; He is Sovereign; Nothing can thwart His plans, and He calls us to take up our cross and follow Him, even in the heart ache. So Melissa, my heart aches with you. You are in the trenches, experiencing the joy of popsicle sharing but the heartache of depravity and systems that frustrate.

Father God, You are good. You are perfectly good, patient, and gracious. You sit in the heavens and do what pleases You. You can change a king's heart and intervene in the bleakest, darkest of circumstances. We ask that You continue Your work in the Hills and in this family that is falling apart, poor, broken, and needy. We ask for lovingkindness to win them over to Your Son Jesus, and we ask for endurance, wisdom, discernment, and mighty prayers as the Hills press on in West Dallas. In Jesus Name. Amen.

CATHY said...

Hoodmama, my sister-in-law is Dona Bush. She recommented your blog when I was in TX in Nov. I read it regularly. Love it. Love you. Love your family. And, yes, I pray, pray,pray. My husband is a pastor & I was complaining to her how the church doesn't seem to care about lost people, and wanting to be in the middle of changing lives. Your blog encourages me. Keep seeking Him. Keep making a difference. Oh, and you're so funny. Cathy Bush
PS: even baked the brownies. big hit.

Legally Fabulous said...

I always read your blog... not even sure how I found it, but I love it!

I was a Theta in College and am from Dallas, so I always feel somehow “connected” to you, even though we’ve never met. The internet is a crazy place!

I will definitely pray for those children and for their mom... I hope it all gets sorted out ASAP. Breaks my heart to think of children in such terrible situations.

These Three Kings said...

love this blog, love your family,praying for this family and their situation! praying also that the Lord will continue to Rebuild your city!

Carly said...

I read it. I want to have coffee soon.

Hattie said...

I enjoy your blog, although I often need a box of kleenex after. I admire you and your love for people who need... I can't imagine what those sweet children are going through, however they have an advocate in you~keep fighting for them. Ultimately, we all have an advocate fighting for us and with us~our Father in Heaven. God bless you and your family.

Tricia said...

Our family will pray, thank you for sharing...I have wondered about those kiddos, esp the older boy who (along with the twin babes!) stayed with you for a while who was wanting so much to make it a permanent arrangement. Getting tears just thinking about him.

What you do (in real life, and as shared here on this blog) touches so many, and brings smiles to the face of our Lord. Thank you for being his instrument.

fyi, most of the time when I don't comment it's b/c I have nothing of huge consequence or meaningfulness to say after the profundity (eh, nice vocab word, wonder if I used it properly in context!) of what I have just read. You amaze me.

emily said...

Wasn't this the same Covenant event that you asked that lady if she was pregnant? Seriously, that was one of my all time favorite posts.

Oh those sweet kiddos. Have you seen the twins? Would call to ask if I had a voice.......

Jill said...

Melissa, I am one of those faithful readers and sometimes commenters...but I want you to know that there is not a time I hear Dallas mentioned whether it be on the news or in a blog or anywhere, I do not flash upon your family and the ministry. I have told you in the past there is a group of mom's who know about Mercy Street in Central Florida. Thanks for asking us again to join with you all, even friends in cyberspace can extend themselves.

Jennifer said...

My family will be praying for those sweet kids!

Stephanie said...

My heart is heavy for those precious children. Praying for them and for your family. Reading your blog (for about the past year, learning about your family and your amazing story has been a blessing to me. It's seeing God's love in action. Thank you for loving on God's children, when their parents can't or don't even know how.

Have a fabulous Mother's Day too!!!

PS My Roomba is still scooting!

Becca said...

Hi friend! As one of those weird blog-friends-turned-real-friend-whatever that means, I know your heart and love your family so much! We talk about coming back out to visit again all the time! Adam and I were thinking that hopefully we could come in the fall sometime. Ok this is totally besides the point, Adam and I did our foster care training this weekend and are getting all certified ...we've been learning so much about the system - it's disastrous really, what a mess it is! I hate it! Anyways, I'm praying, and let us know if there's anything else we can do!

Kim said...

Yes, I feel moved to pray ... again!
And this faithful follower (who has to be reminded that we've never met), remembers all too well your previous posts about these precious children.
As a former foster parent, who is all too familiar with the broken system, I loved THE LETTER.
I also know, we squeaky wheels do get oiled ... even in a broken system.
We will keep praying, as you keep serving as the voice for these children.
Let our story serve as a reminder that the system does work sometimes ...
Love & Blessings from Hong Kong,
Kim

Linda said...

Melissa... As your college roommate, Theta sister, and most importantly sister in Christ...I stand in awe at the woman you are & have become! I am so glad that we have gotten back in touch-hopefully I will see you again, soon!

I have thoroughly enjoyed reading about your life through your blog. God works in AMAZING ways. You are a true servant. Reading your blog makes the last 16 years seem like a small amount of time. Your personality shines through your writing and makes me feel like I am sitting next to you at the Theta house.(in our TINY little room on the 3rd floor...) Yet as the title of your blog reads, your life is so far away from what we lived there. God is smiling at you. I will continue to pray for you... Love, Linda

Anonymous said...

I have been a reader of your blog for a while,don't know how in the world I found it. I have no blog of my own so I guess I don't feel right about leaving a comment, but I will today! I am a pastor's wife, stay at home mom to 2 from Baton Rouge, LA. I will be praying for the family you mentioned and for yours as well. You encourage me to think outside of the box as far as what the Lord has for my family and how he may use us to minister. The bonus is you crack me up in the process. God bless, Carrie Miers

karen said...

My friend and I read many different blogs and one thing we've noticed is how reading these blogs has increased our prayer life tenfold! I'll continue to pray for you! KT

p.s. tonight when my husband and I were buying doggie treats at Petsmart, he wanted me to look at all the snakes for sale and I immediately thought of you :) ewwwwww, SNAKES!!!

Grace said...

still loving your sense of humor even on the other side of the world!

Anonymous said...

Praying for everyone involved. Also waiting for an update on the car/purse incident and hoping your AC is back on!

Kimberly said...

Love it! It was so fun to meet you in person, and I only felt a little bit stalkerish. And I am surely not afraid of your precious children, just worried they may have a reptile stashed in their backpack. I will pray for the kids involved. Love the blog! By the way, great article in the Briefing--and beautiful photo on the facing page. I am part of the photo below--the group Julie wrote about. It's starting to feel like a small world! I hope this didn't post twice. Tried to do it on my phone while feeding baby and I don't think it took. Take care, Kim F.

Sumer said...

Praying. I heart your blog. You are doing great things!

Lea said...

Love, love, love your blog! God uses it over and over to encourage me, challenge me, draw me closer to Himself as I watch how He draws you. Thanks for your diligence to keep this up! Praying HARD for the family right now. It is such a mess and so gut wrenching to hear of...know you feel so helpless (and frustrated). Can't wait to hear how He works this time around!! Love, Lea

wynne wideman said...

Melissa - Already have the Sunday paper!! Beautiful picture of your family and wonderful right-up, authentic and moving. You and Trey and your family are such fine example for us and for our family. You are such a godly example and your light is shining before God and man. I know it is not easy at all. We pray for you and for Mercy Street. Loved being able to hang out with you at Drew's bday. Feel like I could be your close friend. Although, I think everyone wants to be your best friend. The Holy Spirit shines through you. Always following your blog and praying for you, Trey the kids and mercy street ministry.
Wynne

Kim said...

I read your blog because of what you write...life, family, ministry... And you do it in such a way as to encourage, cause us to laugh, compel us to think.

As a missionary wife it's good to hear what God is doing in other places. It's easy to get so focused on what is happening right here that we forget He is changing people, changing lives ALL AROUND THE WORLD. Even right there in Dallas :-)

Praying He changes the really hard situation with those precious children who must feel so lost and abandoned right now. Praying for you and the others at Mercy Street, to know what to do, when to do it, and how to do it for His glory.

I don't comment often because even finding the time to read is sometimes a stretch! I whip through as many favorite blogs as I can when I have some spare minutes :-)

patty said...

what a beautiful {and truthful} post. i am so sorry for those children {and the many more who don't have observant, pop-sicle sharing neighbors}, and sorry for the stress it puts on you, too.
prayers<3